Pamanhikan

10 12 2009

Pamanhikan

My cousin has been dating this guy for a couple years now and recently they have gotten engaged and had a pamanhikan. Traditionally, a pamanhikan is when the groom and his family come to the house of the bride to formally ask for the daughter’s hand in marriage. This is when the 2 families meet and is usually an awkward occasion if it was the first time meeting. Filipinos seek our parents’ blessings for a happy and trouble-free marriage and therefore come together for formally receiving the blessing. All the relatives on the bride’s mom’s side were present there, along with a few from the father’s as well as some members of the groom’s father’s side. All the kids know each other already and are really close. We all go down to Los Angeles together and spends weeks at a time with the grooms relatives. We are in fact really close and have known each other for about 6 years now. The parents don’t mind us being there because they know what we are family. But this meeting in the Bay Area was when all the parents and adults from each side of the family actually met. The parents of the bride usually host the party, but the groom and his family are to bring a gift to present to the bride’s family and to provide all the food. There was a load of food there at the pamanhikan and many people filling the house. It wasn’t awkward at all I feel, for the adults, because they have a lot of things in common and are really nice people. Another reason for the pamanhikan is because it would be a time for the parents of both the bride and groom to come together and discuss any plans that they have for the wedding. They would talk about the guestlist, the location, discuss what kinds of food that they want to be served, and also the wedding budget and who would be paying for all of it, being the parents of the groom or an equal split between the two. In the end, both sides of the families were content with their meeting and were looking forward to being joined together through my cousin and her fiancé. It doesn’t really seem all that crazy to me having more relatives because we already feel like a family and me and my cousins and the groom and his cousins joke around saying that our family are each others’ family’s soul mate. I look forward to it all.

-kathymae

below is a little snippet from the pamanhikan. its so funny haha 🙂

Pamanhikan

My cousin has been dating this guy for a couple years now and recently they have gotten engaged and had a pamanhikan. Traditionally, a pamanhikan is when the groom and his family come to the house of the bride to formally ask for the daughter’s hand in marriage. This is when the 2 families meet and is usually an awkward occasion if it was the first time meeting. Filipinos seek our parents’ blessings for a happy and trouble-free marriage and therefore come together for formally receiving the blessing. All the relatives on the bride’s mom’s side were present there, along with a few from the father’s as well as some members of the groom’s father’s side. All the kids know each other already and are really close. We all go down to Los Angeles together and spends weeks at a time with the grooms relatives. We are in fact really close and have known each other for about 6 years now. The parents don’t mind us being there because they know what we are family. But this meeting in the Bay Area was when all the parents and adults from each side of the family actually met. The parents of the bride usually host the party, but the groom and his family are to bring a gift to present to the bride’s family and to provide all the food. There was a load of food there at the pamanhikan and many people filling the house. It wasn’t awkward at all I feel, for the adults, because they have a lot of things in common and are really nice people. Another reason for the pamanhikan is because it would be a time for the parents of both the bride and groom to come together and discuss any plans that they have for the wedding. They would talk about the guestlist, the location, discuss what kinds of food that they want to be served, and also the wedding budget and who would be paying for all of it, being the parents of the groom or an equal split between the two. In the end, both sides of the families were content with their meeting and were looking forward to being joined together through my cousin and her fiancé. It doesn’t really seem all that crazy to me having more relatives because we already feel like a family and me and my cousins and the groom and his cousins joke around saying that our family are each others’ family’s soul mate. I look forward to it all.

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